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The man police say went on a shooting rampage that left 13 people dead at Ft. Hood, Texas last Thursday was harassed because of his Muslim faith.

Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan had been giving away his belongings and cleaned out his apartment telling friends and neighbors he was being deployed to Iraq.

But according to officials, the 39-year-old Army psychiatrist has emerged as a study in contradictions: a polite man who stewed with discontent, a counselor who needed to be counseled himself.

According to the AP Wire, a recent classmate said Hasan once gave a jarring presentation to students in which he argued the war on terrorism was a war against Islam, and “made himself a lightning rod for things” when he felt his religious beliefs were challenged. Soldiers reported that the gunman shouted “Allahu Akbar!” — an Arabic phrase for “God is great!” — before opening fire, said Lt. Gen. Robert Cone, the base commander. Now base officials worry about a backlash against the thousands of Muslim soldiers serving dutifully in uniform.

Born in Arlington, VA., Hasan entered a psychiatry residency program at Walter Reed Army Medical Center, which he completed in 2007. He had completed a disaster and military psychiatry fellowship in 2007. Phase one of that the fellowship is earning a master of public health degree, which he completed in 2008. He completed the fellowship program in June. A month later, Hasan reported for duty at Fort Hood.

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What are you doing to help the fatherless? At the end of the day will you be able to stand before God blameless or will your traditional thinking keep you bound? To think that feeding the hungry and clothing the poor is the only answer to helping the lost we’re sadly mistaken. In order to fix a problem we must get to the root. Many of the homeless and poor started out in orphanages as innocent babies with no world view, but are now paying for the sins of their fathers. What the church is doing to help them now is like putting a band aid on a shotgun wound. They are still bleeding to death!

Outreach efforts in the church are at an all time high and if that’s not your churches testimony I would say it’s time to shut the doors. If you are not in the business of teaching the salvation of Christ Jesus, what is the purpose? That being said, rather than the traditional efforts, why not offer more relevant information that people can really use? People are hurting and tired of church as usual; the big choir productions, the same pot lucks, fish fries, clothing drives etc., where they go enjoy themselves and get a spiritual high, then go home broke, busted, disgusted, fearful and defeated. When will it end?

Adoption Discovery is a 7 week curriculum that is designed to walk one through what can be the most difficult process imaginable, adoption. No other curriculum is as thorough or unbiased. They don’t decide what agency to send people to, but because all agencies are not created equal, they help your members make that decision by equipping them with all the information they need to decide on the agency that is right for them. These small group discussions are designed to be intimate based on the nature of adoption and the sensitive, but relevant questions that most people wouldn’t otherwise ask in a larger group environment for fear of being judged. Adoption Discovery’s leaders are always standing by to train and answer any tough questions that the assigned group leader in your church can not. Therefore, your members don’t have to leave their church to be fed the knowledge they need, but they are truly sustained at their local church by getting all the information one needs to make an informed decision about adoption.

When ministries are equipped to feed people with knowledge and understanding on any subject it makes them valuable not only to their members, but to the people within their community. It’s much easier to walk by faith when we have knowledge. No word, no faith. And more importantly, faith without works is dead. Want more people? Do more.

It is time that we as the church bring salvation to the lives of the one hundred sixty million lost orphans in the world. How will you do it? More importantly, how will you answer to God when he has given you an avenue to do so?

To learn more about Adoption Discovery visit their website at www.adoptiondiscovery.org.

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Praise 104.1 welcomes radio personality Lonnie Hunter to our on-air family! Hunter will be debuting on Praise on Monday, September 28th as the new midday host on weekdays from 10 am-2 pm directly following the Yolanda Adams Morning Show

Hunter is already well-known in the gospel music world. He is a Stellar nominated singer, producer and host of “Real Christian Radio” on Radio One’s Praise 103.9 FM in Philadelphia and Praise 100.9 FM in Charlotte, NC. “DC is one of the premier markets in gospel music. I consider it a blessing, honor and privilege to be welcomed into the incredible Praise 104.1 family,” said Hunter.

Hunter also serves as Pastor of Worship at the 23,000 member mega church Bethany Baptist Church where Bishop David G. Evans is the Senior Pastor. Husband, father, mentor, artist and business man, Lonnie Hunter lives by Phil. 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me.”

Kanye West used Jay Leno’s prime-time debut Monday to offer another apology for ruining Taylor Swift’s night at theMTV Video Music Awards and to say he’s going to take some time off for reflection.

West said he knew he was wrong the moment he handed the microphone back to Swift, when he was bathed in boos. He had interrupted Swift on Sunday night as she accepted a best female video award for “You Belong With Me,” arguing that Beyonce’s “Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)” was more deserving.

“It was rude, period,” West said. He posted a second apology to Swift on his blog on Monday, and told Leno he wanted to apologize to thecountry music star in person.

West took a long pause when Leno asked what his mother would have said about the incident. West was very close to his mother, Donda, who died in November 2007. He said yes when Leno asked whether his mother would have given him a lecture.

“So many celebrities, they never take the time off,” he said. “I’ve never taken the time off to really — you know, just music after music and tour after tour. I’m just ashamed that my hurt caused someone else’s hurt. My dream of what awards shows are supposed to be, ’cause, and I don’t try to justify it because I was just in the wrong. That’s period. But I need to, after this, take some time off and just analyze how I’m going to make it through the rest of this life, how I’m going to improve.”

He had already been set to perform on Leno’s first prime-time show onNBC, but asked for time to talk with the controversy swirling. It may have been a stroke of luck for Leno, whose daily prime-time comedy show already was the most buzzed-about fall debut. With West, it’s likely to draw even more curious viewers.

It was reminiscent of when Hugh Grant appeared on the “Tonight” show with Leno in 1995 to make amends after being arrested with a prostitute — only this time there weren’t many laughs. The Grant appearance was a springboard for Leno to eclipse David Letterman in the ratings.

Leno was quick to reference the West incident with one of his first monologue jokes Monday, saying President Barack Obama had invited West and the 19-year-old Swift for a “root beer summit.”

West has gotten in trouble before with ill-timed comments, raising scenes after losing awards himself at theVMAs, the Grammys and the American Music Awards. In 2005, West said during a telethon after Hurricane Katrina that President George W. Bush “doesn’t care about black people.”

MTV wasn’t complaining on Monday. Televised on MTV, MTV2 and VH1 simultaneously on Sunday, the awards show was seen by 11 million people, according to Nielsen Media Research. That’s up 21 percent over last year and was the most-watched Video Music Awards since 2002.

A corporate partner of MTV jumped to take advantage of it. Comedy Central, like MTV owned by Viacom Inc., planned to rerun four times in a row on Tuesday a “South Park” episode that poked fun at West’s ego.

West spoke on Leno’s show before performing with Jay-Z and Rihanna on Jay-Z’s song “Run This Town.”

Some of West’s fans who were waiting to see the performance on Leno’s show condemned the rapper.

“I thought that was very disrespectful,” said Oscar Velasquez, 21, of Valley Village, Calif. “He’s a great musician, but as a person, he’s not a role model or anything. And I think that not only are his fans disappointed but his mom would be disappointed. I don’t think she raised him like that, to be like that. I think he needs to remember that.”

Velasquez said he’d remained a fan of West’s after previous awards show blowups, but, “I’m getting kind of tired of it. There comes to a point where you know what? That’s how you are, but you can change. And he needs to change.”

Errimis Pullett, 27, of San Diego, said he planned to boo West.

He said he’d dismissed West’s previous award show tantrums by telling himself, “‘Oh, he’s kind of misunderstood. He’s a little egotistical.’ But last night, just jumping in front of Taylor Swift and stealing her moment, that was ridiculous. I can’t support or defend that. I’m a huge fan, bought all his CDs. … I’m glad Beyonce stepped in and let her finish her speech up.”

This time, Pullett said, “he looked more like a bully.”

Anybody that thinks that Kanye West’s “protest” of country singer Taylor Swift winning the Best Female Video award over Beyonce at last night’s MTV VMAs was really about Beyonce and not all about him, is even crazier than he is.

Kanye has all the trademarked traits of the psychopath; he can’t see outside himself and I even suspect that those sunglasses he wears have little mirrors on the inside.

The guy’s a nut.

WATCH the tomfoolery here:

We give him a pass because he’s a brilliant musician, but he always seems to want more than a pass. The guy seems to need our undivided attention, even when the subject, topic, idea, notion, night, event, or gathering has absolutely nothing to do with him.

“George Bush doesn’t care about Black people.” But Kanye, you do? It’s not like your girlfriend is Alek Wek, my brother. And the night had been going so smoothly too.

Madonna got up on stage and gave what she thought, I’m sure, was a moving verbal tribute to Michael Jackson. Then I stopped paying attention for a while. Then, I think, Beyonce performed. Then I stopped paying attention again. Then Jay-Z and Alicia Keys closed the show with Hov’s Blueprint 3-issued glowing tribute to the Big Apple, “Empire State of Mind“. Some nutty girl leaped up on stage at the end of that performance, but by then the novelty had worn off.

Luckily for us all, Beyonce showed the kind of class we’ve come to expect from any Black woman who’s been studying Michelle Obama and welcomed Taylor Swift up to the stage after Beyonce herself took the Video of the Year honors. This was Beyonce’s way of giving Swift her “moment”.

You can bet your last money that Kanye didn’t care about any of that, however. By that point in the show, he had already assured that by pulling a “Joe Wilson“, he’d be today’s number one topic of discussion. Despite myself, I even had to write a blog about him.

I hope he’s happy.

Next month, my husband and I will have 14 years of marriage!  What a milestone!  We have endured good times and overcome great challenges as well.  What makes the time worth it is knowing that we have taken on those challenges and overcome then together.  Our bond is stronger than it’s ever been and my love for him has grown tremendously over this 14- year span.

I have a great deal of admiration and respect for our president and his wife, Barack and Michelle Obama.  By all accounts they seem to have a wonderful relationship in spite of all of the obvious challenges they face in their everyday lives.  Michelle has commented that she helps Obama with his calendar and makes sure he doesn’t miss Back to School nights or any other of their children’s events.  They also make sure they have their date night regularly in spite of them both having very busy schedules.  On Inauguration night, watching them dance together, their love for each other was obvious.  It just makes you wonder, how do they keep it all together?  I’m sure they have professional planners and others who help them keeping their schedules on track.  While I’m sure professional planners make life easier for them, the credit for staying committed to one another and making their marriage work, would go solely to them.  What about other power couples with busy schedules?  How do they keep it together?  How do celebrities like Will Smith and Jada manage to keep it together after 12 years when other couples have failed?  What about Duane Martin and Tisha Campbell?  I’m sure the day to day of very busy couples such as this makes it very difficult to hold it all together.  I’m just glad that although my life can seem very busy at times, it probably doesn’t get as busy as these couples!   Somehow, they have learned how to work together to overcome obstacles and barriers.

Most couples site love and commitment as two primary keys to their success.  But what happens when love just isn’t enough.  What happens when you just don’t feel like loving anymore?  What about when you feel like you have had enough and want to quit?  How do you continue to go on in the face of potential monotony, boredom and/or complete disgust with your mate?  If we based our lives on feelings of boredom and monotony, we’d quit all of the vital things in life.  We get bored and fed up with our jobs, our children, friendships, and parents as well but don’t completely quit them.

The easy answer for a dating couple is to say, “Maybe this isn’t working. Let’s break up.”  But for married couples, we have to exhaust all options before we bail out because our commitments to one another are

1. A covenant
2. For Life

How many times have you heard someone say, “I’m just not in love with him/her anymore?”  Love is not based on a feeling.  It’s based on mutual admiration and respect.  The most important ingredient in a relationship is commitment.  The real glue of marriage is  the commitment.  Commitment will last when love doesn’t seem to.

It seems in our relationships we need to every so often, re-create ourselves.  This does not mean changing ourselves but simply altering our needs.  For example, a couple that enjoys running 3 miles a day together may have to try bowling or something more practical as they age and are less likely to be able to run as they used to.  Adjustments are necessary when you realize that this is a lifetime commitment.  When you make a commitment to marriage, you promise to be there in sickness, in health, in good times and bad, in poverty and in flourishing times.  You promise to be there!  So what makes couples so apt and agreeable to ending relationships over “irreconcilable differences?”  Doesn’t every couple have irreconcilable differences?  Doesn’t every couple agree to disagree?  Let’s be truthful, you aren’t going to agree on everything.  Marriage is full of give and take.  You have to be willing to balance the two in order to become one with your spouse.

Here’s my advice to couples contemplating marriage:

Before you say I do:

1. Talk extensively about “hot” topics that may not matter while dating but certainly will matter in marriage.

-         children (discipline, expectations, quantity, plan, step-children)

-         money matters (separate accounts, joint accounts, how you will pay the bills, expectations, work ethic, child support and/ or alimony from previous relationships, credit rating/ report)

-         travel, vacations,

-         church attendance, belief system, commitment, background

-         lifestyle, expectations of daily living

-         sex – expectations, frequency, technique, etc.

-         roles in marriage

2.  Go into the relationship knowing how your partner feels, not guessing

3.  Be sure both partners agree to commit to being married forever and not being together for a while and re-evaluating

4.  Don’t ignore warning signs or stoppers (things you know you can’t tolerate)

5.  Get premarital counseling prior to marriage

This is in no way an exhaustive list. This will simply get the ball rolling and make you aware of  what the person you are contemplating marriage with is all about.  It will hopefully create a conversation that will paint a picture of both of your expectations in marriage.  It’s much harder to “fix” marriages once you’ve entered into them.  The main point here is to be knowledgeable.  Go into the relationship with eyes wide open!  So many times people are in love with the IDEA of a wedding with no idea of how the marriage will work!!  Plan for a lifetime of commitment and not for that one special day of bliss.

If you are married and want to give up, know that your commitment is not only to your mate but to God as well.

1.  Pray and ask God to intervene if you are struggling.

2.  Talk to your mate. Sometimes when you simply communicate your feelings, you can get a better understanding from your mate and open the door for dialogue.

3.  If you’ve messed up somehow, ask for forgiveness from God and your mate and ask him/her if you can start fresh.   If you are on the receiving end of an apology, receive it.

4.  Start doing things with your mate regularly.  Find common interests.

5.  Get a babysitter and spend time alone together.  Having a date night helps to bond couples.

6.  Be spontaneous and do things to surprise your spouse.

7.  Seek out other couples with like interests.

8.  Agree to give it your best effort this time and don’t give up!

9.  When all of your efforts fail, seek counseling.  Don’t wait to go to counseling as a last resort, consult one while you both are agreeable and not at the last straw.

There is no secret ingredient for keeping love alive in your marriage, as every couple is different in wants and needs and each couple must find what works for them.  Suffice it to say,  your marriage is what you make of it.  It requires maintenance.  If you don’t maintain it, it won’t work.   Knowing that God is the center of our marriage is peace of mind.  He will never leave you or forsake you.  Commit to staying in your marriage for a lifetime and it will be rewarding and satisfying knowing you have a partner for life.  Working through obstacles and challenges is never a pleasant experience, but committing to being there for your mate and your family and making your marriage work together is the best thing you can do for your family, your spouse and even for yourself!

The average American eats approximately 1,500 pounds of food every year. Of that, 160 pounds are primarily sugar.

Of course, sugar is delicious, and I know I’m the happier for its existence, but of all the things we consume, it has the least nutritive value. In fact, except for the energy in its calories, there’s not much to recommend about sugar. It’s a prime source of empty calories, and for those of us who are trying to lose weight, sugar’s the first thing we should start trimming from our diets. But here’s the problem-despite our best intentions to remove excess sugar from our diet, the food industry has found more and more devious ways of slipping us the sweet stuff. Whether the food industry calls sugar by another name or adds it to foods we never thought would have needed it, our sweet tooth is constantly being bombarded. Fortunately, with stricter labeling laws, we have a fighting chance at cutting back on sugar.

Why does the food industry want to fill us so full of sugar?

It’s basically the same as any other industry. For the oil industry to make more money, it needs us to use more of its product by driving more miles. The food industry needs us to use more of its product by eating more calories. The problem is that the American food industry is already producing around 3,900 calories per person per day, which is way more than we need. One solution to this surplus is to sell the food cheaply overseas, which the industry does. The other solution is for Americans to eat more calories. And sugar and its corn sweetener brethren are great calorie delivery systems, as they pack a huge caloric punch, without causing much satiety, or feeling of fullness. Most people would probably stop eating steak after they reached 1,000 calories, because they’d be stuffed, but after you drank 1,000 calories from your Big Gulp cup, there’s still room for dinner. The other reason the industry pushes sugar so hard is that it’s cheap to produce, and the cheaper the calorie, the larger the profit margin.

Sugar in labels-hiding in plain sight.

One of the best ways to disguise the amount of sugar in a product is something the government already requires-printing the information in grams. Most Americans only have the foggiest idea of how much a gram is, because we’re unaccustomed to the metric system. So when we pick up a can of soda that contains 40 grams of sugar, we pretty much shrug our shoulders and pop the top. And that attitude is all right with the soda industry! But what if the label said that it contained over 10 teaspoons of sugar? If you saw someone ladling 10 teaspoons of sugar into their morning coffee, you’d think they were crazy, but that’s how much people consume in a typical 12-ounce can. In a 64-ounce fountain drink that you’d get at a movie theater or a convenience store, you get over 53 teaspoons of sugar-almost two cups! Naturally, people would probably think twice if the nutritional information on products was given in measurements that were meaningful to them. But until our heavily food industry-subsidized government decides to change its policy, it’s a metric world, we just live in it. But we can take note that four grams equals one teaspoon. So when you check out the label, divide the grams of sugar by four, and that’s how many teaspoons you’re consuming.

Sugar, by any other name, would taste just as sweet.

Another strategy the sugar pushers use to get us to consume more calories is to rename the offending ingredient. We know to stay away from sugar, but how about molasses, honey, sorghum, corn syrup, high fructose corn syrup, glucose, fructose, lactose, dextrose, sucrose, galactose, maltose, or concentrated juices like grape or apple? Another path to profit that the food industry has discovered is that instead of harvesting relatively more expensive sugar cane and beets, the industry can produce sweeteners in a laboratory more cheaply and with just as many calories as beet and cane sugar. And with some sweeteners, especially the popular high fructose corn syrup, it is believed that your body will be less likely to reach satiety than with sugar, so you can consume more. Mo’ calories, mo’ money. Another advantage to these doses of -oses is that, aside from the fact that many people won’t guess they’re just different forms of sugar, they can be spread out in the ingredient list required by law, so that it won’t be as obvious that what you’re consuming is pretty much all sugar. When you look at a list of ingredients on a product, the manufacturer is required to list them in order of amount, from highest to lowest. So they can bury a quarter cup of fructose, a quarter cup of sucrose, a quarter cup of dextrose, and a quarter cup of corn syrup in the middle of the list, so you won’t be as likely to notice that when you add them all up, the main ingredient in the product is sugar.

Hide and seek. You’re it.

So, if you’re like me, you may have sworn off soda except for special occasions, and turned the candy bowl into an unsalted-almond bowl. No more sugar, no more problems. Except for this problem-the food industry has cleverly snuck its sugars and corn syrups into products where we never would have thought to look for sugar. It’s good for the manufacturer. It jacks up the calorie load, can enhance the product’s appearance (high-fructose corn syrup gives hamburger buns their golden glow), and can keep our sugar jones simmering at a low boil, in case we ever decide to go back to the real thing. Here are some types of products whose labels could bear more scrutiny.

Spaghetti sauce. A half cup of store-bought sauce can contain as many as three teaspoons of corn syrup or sugar. While some of the naturally occurring sugar in tomatoes and other vegetables will show up on the nutrition label, most of the sugar is added. Look for brands that don’t include sugar or its aliases or make your own from fresh or canned tomatoes.

Ketchup. Ketchup can be 20 percent sugar or more. Not to mention that you’ll get 7 percent of your daily sodium allowance in one tablespoon. Look for low-salt, no-sugar brands, or make your own, using pureed carrots to add flavor and texture to the tomatoes.

Reduced-fat cookies. Most brands of cookies now offer a reduced-fat version of their product. Nabisco even offers its own line of low-fat treats, Snackwells. But while you’re patting yourself on the back for choosing the low-fat option, check the label. The sneaky food manufacturers did take out the fat, but they replaced it with, you guessed it, sugar. Many times, the reduced-fat cookie is only slightly less caloric than the one you want to eat. And because there’s no fat to make you feel full, you’ll be tempted to eat more “guilt-free” cookies. And just because there’s less fat, it doesn’t mean you’ll be less fat. Fat doesn’t make you fat. Calories make you fat.

Low-fat salad dressing. Like the cookies, manufacturers have taken the fat out of the dressing, but they’ve added extra salt and sugar to make up for it. Check the label to make sure you’re not replacing heart-healthy olive oil with diabetes-causing sugar-because that’s not really a “healthy choice.” Your best bet? Make your own vinaigrettes using a small amount of olive oil, a tasty gourmet vinegar or fresh lemon juice, and some fresh herbs.

Bread. Most processed breads, especially white hamburger and hot dog buns, can contain a good bit of sugar or corn syrup. That’s what gives them the golden-brown crust. As always, check the ingredient label, and consider getting your bread at a real bakery or a farmers’ market-it’s the best idea since, well, you know.

Fast food. Needless to say, fast food is generally not good for you. But even if you’re staying away from the sodas and the shakes, everything from the burgers to the fries to the salads is a potential place to hide sugar. Check out the ingredients carefully at your favorite restaurant. You may be getting more than you bargained for.

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From The Hill.com

Leading members of the Black Caucus are threatening to bring down healthcare reform if it does not include a strong public option.

Rep. John Conyers (D-Mich.) said that President Obama will not be able to muscle through a bill that sidesteps a government-run plan.

“[Obama] can’t get 218 without a public option,” Conyers said on MSNBC last night. “This is simple arithmetic.”

Conyers tallied up the progressive members he expects to join him in opposing a plan with no public option.

“There are 83 Progressive Caucus members, 42 Black Caucus members 25 Hispanic Caucus members, 14 Asian Pacific members, and most of them are public option people,” Conyers said.

Rep. Maxine Waters (D-Calif.) agreed with Conyers’s ominous analysis and warned that House liberals will not settle for the kind of compromise that might be necessary in the Senate.

“You’re asking whether or not we will support some other altnerative to public option, and I want to be very, very clear,” she told MSNBC’s Ed Schultz.

“We’ve got to have a public option. I will not vote for anything that doesn’t have a public option.”

At a press conference today on Capitol Hill, Congressional Black Caucus Chairwoman Barbara Lee said there was no room for debate on the issue.

“As members of the Congressional Black Caucus, we are unwavering in our support of a robust public option,” she said, according to First Read.

Obama is expected to push for the public option in his address to Congress tonight, but will likely not “draw a line in the sand” by threatening to kill any reform package that lacks such a plan.

You’ve got the butterflies, the chemistry, and his mom loves you. The idea of a future together doesn’t scare you, you like (most of) his friends, and he’s usually very attentive. All signs are pointing to “yes” in this picture-perfect relationship; you can even ignore the fact that he leaves his dirty socks under the couch in the living room. However, there are some bad habits that just can’t be ignored. And sometimes, it’s our fault. 

5. Having An Affair With His “Potential”
Wanting your man to be all that he can be is admirable, but approaching his looks and personality with an “Extreme Makeover” ambition will only hurt his self-esteem and leave you both frustrated and resentful. Don’t criticize or push him to change; all he hears is “you aren’t good enough.” And if that’s really the case, why are you settling?

4. Gossiping
Talking to your girls about your love life is a normal part of friendship, but if you’re calling your BFF, your sister and your mom every time your man pisses you off, you’re not only going to wind up embarrassed when the storm passes, you’ll also find yourself in a relationship with someone who feels violated and judged. And, also, don’t kiss-and-tell. It’s tacky.

3. Being melodramatic
Some incidences call for a heated reaction. Others simply don’t. Learning the difference is key. If you’re calling him in tears every time your coworker irritates you, deleting him from Facebook during every argument and threatening to end the relationship over him leaving the toilet seat up (again!), he might start looking for a new leading lady. 

2. Spending Too Much Time Together
Spending time with your man is one of the best parts of being in a relationship, but there’s a big difference between bonding and being joined at the hip. Men are attracted to secure, independent women. Besides, he can’t miss you ’til you’re gone, so take some time apart and let the flowers, cute cards, and sweet text messages start rolling in.

1. Acting Jealous
He lets you know how much he loves you constantly, but that doesn’t stop you from checking his phone when he’s in the shower or sending every pretty girl he talks to eye-daggers. Although a tiny bit of jealousy in a relationship is normal, accusing your man of cheating and questioning his whereabouts every time he walks in will have him feeling controlled, manipulated and insulted. What’s done in the dark will come to the light, so if he’s doing wrong, you’ll find out soon enough – without having to be a detective.

(From Glamour.com. Click here to find out how to rebuild the relationship once these bad habits have already affected it.)

Even Maxwell knows a thing or two; check his video for “Bad Habits” here: