VIA ELEV8:
By Stuart McDonald
Ladies, I hate to break it to you, but when men accept Jesus Christ as Lord of our lives, we do not lose the desire for a physically attractive mate. Sorry. Unless you were born yesterday, you should know that men are visual beings. We’re attracted to pretty things and shiny objects (not unlike little kids) that look good; that’s the way God built us. You’re going to have to deal with this characteristic for the rest of your life, so if you haven’t already, start getting used to it.
It seems as if the church (when I say, “the church” I don’t mean necessarily an organization, but more so Christians in general) asks us to look past the physical in order to “find a good thing.” Should I, as a Christian man, have to settle for a less than attractive woman because of the fact that I am saved? Does my love for Christ somehow eclipse my desire to have a beautiful wife? Should I settle for someone with a “great personality” because they love Christ and know their purpose? I think not.
I hear a lot of ladies say, “I have a lot to offer,” or, “I have a great personality,” or, “Why aren’t men approaching me?” and I honestly don’t know what to say other than, “they’re not attracted to you.” Maybe it’s a physical thing, maybe not, but regardless, a man is not going to be interested in pursuing you if he doesn’t find you attractive. Deal with it. All the unsaved women of the world are. What makes you any different?
I know plenty of women that are absolutely stunning from a purely physical perspective. The fact that they are serious about walking out the purposes and calling of God only serves to make them more attractive. Would they be attractive to most men if they weren’t believers? Yes. Does their faith make them more attractive? Generally speaking, yes, but from an exclusively physical perspective, no. I just don’t see a reason why a woman can’t be both saved and sexy, a believer and a bombshell.
Is it shallow? I don’t know… what do you think?
Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you don’t enjoy looking at? You realize you have to roll over and look at this person every morning in all of their ‘glory,’ right? And you’re ok with that person being less than desirous? If so, you deserve a freaking medal (or you’re a woman). I, along with most people I know, wouldn’t be able to handle it. But don’t let me stop you! If you want to be with an ugly person (let’s just call it what it is) then have at it. I don’t think anyone will stop you and there are plenty for you to choose from.
Are all men so into external appearances?
No, there are some guys who are ok being with an ugly woman. Seriously. They’re normally blind though.
Now, I know we’re all God’s children and true beauty is on the inside and you can’t judge a book by it’s cover and yada yada yada. Cue the tiny violins. All I’m saying is this: Take some pride in your appearance! I have never said you have to spend ridiculous money on clothes, nor do you have to be a single digit size. Take care of yourself, be healthy, and treat yourself right. Just care about how you look. That’s what we’re asking for. It’s amazing what a hot pair of shoes and a great dress will do for the attention a person gets (and for their self esteem too).
Isn’t love blind? Shouldn’t we look at what’s on the inside?
Some women got saved and threw their style & sense of good personal appearance (and hygiene) right out the door. Oh, I know, it’s because God looks at the heart, right? Right. Sure. Fine. I’ll tell you what: get your heart right for God & get your looks right so you can get scooped up by a man! There is NO reason you shouldn’t want to have yourself looking healthy fly and put together (except for low self esteem, but that’s another post all together). And please don’t stop caring about your appearance once you’ve been found (that’s right, BE found). Honestly, you should be concerned with your look more AFTER you get a man than you did beforehand. Why? Because at that point you are a representation of him, his family, and his legacy. If you genuinely cared about your man, you wouldn’t want anything to reflect poorly on him, especially if it was something you have the power change.
at 12:58 pm
Brother thanks for the article, much needed to be said on the subject matter, in fact the bible speaks about our sppearance as God’s people.. how we are to be set aside away from the world and what the world consideres beautiful, given that the black church harbours mostly black women, stands to reason why would any of the beautiful ladies adorn themselves with a shortage of adult males in the black church today, its not always practical to think that wasy, becuz you never know when GOd will send a man to a NEW church. But I agree with you, er males are creatures of objects..we like medals, awards, anything that we work hard to earn as a token of appreciation for work well done, liek find a wife, every man of God know if he want s a wife and what type of wife he needs, that is how GOD wired most males from a BALANCED example two parent house hold.. the father is the head of the HOUSE and his sons follow his lead, especially, if the family is a church going believing in the TRUE LIVING GOD> who Son is Jesus Christ.
As true heirs of Abraham and what GOD said about his seed.. we should expect nothing but the best in all that we do and present ourselves as the best in all we do, NOT take second best for Nothing as the heirs to the Kingdom, once God is instill in us as a filled holy ghost indivdual, ALL THING are new and renewed, which includes our appearance..that is what GOD’S word said and its true.. when GOd came into my life or better yet I accepted GOD and Jesus… EVERY SINGLE THING ABOUT ME CHANGED from the crown of my head to the SOLES OF MY FEET, I started to feel better, LOOK BETTER, dress better, communicated better, receive others better, everything was NEW..and it all started in my mind which is the battlefield where everything takes place for CHANGE/good /bad/ or in different/.. once my mind was renewed..everything about me tranformed me mentally, physically and spiritually to a place that I never knew existed. The joy of GOD was overwheleming and it made me STRONG, I wouldn’t trade it for nothing in the world NOTHING..I’m at the point where GOd is showing me favour and the angels who are positioned around me north , south , east and west of me daily are doing super natural things for me thru the word of god spoken on my behalf..
I said of that to say, your point is that prefection is apart of GOD’s plan for anyone who will give their life to God thru Jesus Christ, including being MINDful of one’s appearance,the rightous power of attraction as GOd planned as such.. after all we are kingdom builders and representers of the KINGDOM to come..and those who belong to GOD..KNOW that GOD is moving at a pace now according to the book of Daniel and other revelations moving forward..perfection and knowledge is the keys for the saints to substained and HAVE what they were promised but yet taken away by the enemy, BUT thru the word of GOD its time to recover all things taken are going to be given back, the wealth of the wicked(thieves) shall be the treasures of the righteous ..and it starts with the word and with the outer shell of clarity and CLEAN living to receive what GOd has promised..down the line.. and not only that ..once you are engaged and then married ans the welthy is there by being obedient to God words.. BOTH husband and wife have to keep there marriage ALIVE as like it was the first date they both enjoyed..you got to be careful as a wife be a wife and lover to your husband ALWAYS..not just the roll of being a MOTHER.. yes be a mother to your children, but a WIFE and lover to your husband.. that means keep it sexy for him and likewise husbands, be a husband and boyfriend to your wife as if she is still your girlfriend regards if you have children or not.. Wife/girlfriend keep it FRESH and hott..ALWAYS even if you have children, before the children it was just you and he and he and you..that intimacy should NEVER be lost between the both of you as husband and wife.
As far as dating outside the rim of save people? What you will get is what you get.. don’t be SURPRIZED and it’s certain it is not anyone’s BEST, it’s second GUESS for the most part..its ALL flesh of lies and deceit.. and less spirit of TRUTH if any at all and so much sooner than later as always this will be known and the cycle repeats itshelf as your BEST, actually its a curse.. a curse belong to the world..and the world is a EVIL place for those who are worldly.. in fact they are considered “ungodly” as far as god’s words say..which means they know God but go against the moral principles of GOD, and further more it will get worst becuz there are “GODLESS” people who don’t believe in GOD exist. period.
at 1:25 am
So does that go for christian woman not being blind as well, im just saying it was interesting to read your artical, an it opened up my eyes alot an i can honestly say i have nevr dated no man from church i have always dated unsaved man , my piont is if thats how man are in the church i will just keep doing what I do best..
at 4:06 pm
Saved Men Definitely are not blind. This saved man got out of a bad marriage praising God and is blessed for it. I might be homeless at this moment, but I will get the Victory in this. Look at WUSA9.com
under godsarmy36 there to see my blog about poor homeless people in the Orlando FL. area. I did this while going through it myself, but while preaching my testimonies, I was told of the hardships of other people which is how I found out what I know.