Do Black Churches Keep Black Women Single?

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Legs covered in skin-toned stockings, her skirt crisp to the knee, Patty Davis slips on the black heels she has shined for the day.

“Got to look good in the Lord’s house,” she says as she spritzes her neck with White Diamonds perfume and exits her black Lincoln Town Car.

Davis, 46, of Union City, Georgia, has attended African Methodist Episcopal churches since before she could crawl. She sits proudly in the pew every Sunday for service and is among the first to arrive for bible study each Wednesday.

She moves swiftly, with confidence, a weathered Bible clutched in her right hand, the day’s passages dog-eared and highlighted. She’s the type of woman who can recite scriptures with ease, her love of faith evident in her speech.

“Every day is a blessed day for me,” she says. “Jesus is the No. 1 man in my life and any man who wants me must seek me through Him.”

The unmarried Georgia native is a committed follower of the Christian faith, striving to live and breathe the gospel in her daily life. Yet, according to relationship advice columnist Deborrah Cooper, it is this devout style of belief and attachment to the black church that is keeping black women like Davis — single and lonely.

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I was listening to the comments yesterday. And Yes, we all have standards.

But how many women lose faith in God when it comes to what kind of change he can make in a man?

I know where God brought me from (LAWD KNOWS!), so when I meet men who WANT to better themselves (that is the main criteria,) and willing to put in the work to get there, I see great men who just need a little love and prayer.

Think about God’s almighty power and good men will be plentiful, it will then just be a matter of meeting the one that compliments your personality. Remember sista’s, All things are possible through Christ who strengthens us … even finding Black love in a world that is committed to destroying it.

LOVE YOU!
Toni
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I do not believe that the Black Churches are keeping Black Women Single, but the values and opinons of both men and women in general are the reason why we are single.

What exactly are the single men/women in church or out of the church looking for? We want a meaningful relationship (at least I do) and from the teachings of the Bible we should practice abstinence. I know from the Tyler Perry movies this is demonstrated, but in reality it is very difficult to achieve and hard maintain. When I would tell men this is my choice, their reaction was quote “What is wrong with you?”. Or the pressure of being intimate would begin, they have to be the one to get me to break my vow with God (really???). (I practiced for 9+ yrs).

The buttom line is that some people are not secure in who they are and to whom they belong. Until, we have found that unspeakable joy within ourselves, we will always fall into the propaganda of the non-believers. Living our lives as to how the world think we ought to be; married and have kids by a certain age and all the other fallacies.

I did break down, but realize it was not worth it and I have since renewed my vow with God. At the end of the day He has never left my side, kept every promise and always, always shows up right on time…

Find your purpose and wait! For what God has for you is for you!!!

DIVA (Divinely Inspired Virtuously Anointed)

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